There comes a time in most couples’ lives where there is a major change in how those lives are lived. In fact, there are several but here are some thoughts. If you have brought up children together and the last child leaves home, this major change can – for some – mean that the coupleContinue reading “The risks of retiring and future planning…”
Category Archives: Other people’s attitudes
Beware of disablers…
Working as a Social Worker for many years, there is of course terminology present and this can change over the years as thinking and research change. The world in which my parents brought us up was certainly a very different place. Words describing those of other cultures while a product of the times, would –Continue reading “Beware of disablers…”
It’s not just “Shake and Shuffle”
I was out today with my cousin and my 89-year-old uncle. Periodically we like to go trawl around the Op Shops together. Today was a beautiful day and we were enjoying each other’s company. After visiting the first shop we decided it was time for a coffee and a comfort stop. We went to theirContinue reading “It’s not just “Shake and Shuffle””
Things move in cycles….
Today I started to think about how my life has changed over the years. How the way I live my life now is so very different to my previous lives. When I say that things move in cycles, this is what I was thinking today. When I first moved to Christchurch, I was a soleContinue reading “Things move in cycles….”
Carrying on decluttering
I have spoken before about clearing out my house of things that I feel I no longer need. I have really been on a roll this past few weeks, clearing out and moving on without the excess baggage – in one case, quite literally – that I don’t need to keep. I am gradually movingContinue reading “Carrying on decluttering”
Gently letting go and moving into the future…
Over the past few weeks, I have spent quite a lot of time having a good old clearout at home. I started with some paperwork and progressed on from there. When I started looking, it was incredible how much paperwork I had that I no longer needed to keep. There were bits of paperwork suchContinue reading “Gently letting go and moving into the future…”
We are all unique
This morning I was reading some posts on a Facebook page that I followed before we went to Rarotonga. It was a useful forum to find out about restaurants, tours, things to do and places to see. The posts this morning that most caught my eye were from a person who put an anonymous postContinue reading “We are all unique”
Shedding my Social Work skin and embracing my new life…
I don’t know why in particular this week has been a week of clearing things out of my life that I no longer need. I have cleared out a number of different things, starting with some small drawers in my chest of drawers. Next was bags of clothing I had sorted months ago meaning toContinue reading “Shedding my Social Work skin and embracing my new life…”
We are vulnerable, the cared for and the carer
For those of you who are new to my blog, I am a 64 year old woman and am married to my third husband. My first marriage gave me three beautiful children and ultimately six beautiful grandchildren. My second – though it started off well – descended into a relationship of abuse and control. AContinue reading “We are vulnerable, the cared for and the carer”
Be your own best advocate always…
As people with complex health conditions and also for those that support us, it can be easy to let the ‘professionals’ call the shots when it comes to decisions. They can be decisions large or small, but perhaps if we get into a cycle of always agreeing with these professionals without question, we may alsoContinue reading “Be your own best advocate always…”
My journey with Parkinsons 