All is going well … and ‘should’isms’

Yesterday I posted about my nervousness at meeting up with family. As predicted, I did have a bit of trouble keeping in the conversations due to a bit of a lag in my processing. Not a biggee and I don’t think it was overly noticeable.

It was lovely to catch up and hear what has been happening in each other’s lives and enjoy an outing and later dinner together. Family had managed to find a kid friendly restaurant with playground and the kids seemed happy to play and no dramas. It was good to see a restaurant business that seems to understand that families want – and have a right, I’m sure – to be able to have a pleasant meal with their children.

Then we went on to the Hotel where some of us are staying. It is welcoming, clean and friendly. We are having breakfast soon and tonight we dine in house. There is one thing that I feel is somewhat concerning though. Although we have a downstairs room, which is handy for those of us somewhat challenged by stairs, the bathroom is problematic. When we first arrived I went in the bathroom and discovered that there is only a shower over a bath. I asked my husband to check if they had any rooms with a stand alone shower and he came back saying they did not, but they did have a suction mat for the bottom of the bath…

Not only is it a shower over the bath, but a deep bath which makes getting in very difficult. I really did not feel at all safe and had to get my husband to help me to get in and out. So, I had my shower, but still don’t feel safe getting in and out. We are only here for one more night, so I will need to wash rather than showering, as I found real difficulty getting in and out and that didn’t feel good.

Talking to my husband this morning, I used a word I usually avoid at all costs.

The word?

Should!

I dislike using this word and others using it, often telling another person what they ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ do. To me it is too value laden and full of expectations of what one person wishes to impose upon the person to whom they are speaking.

So today I used that dreaded word!

I said, “They SHOULD have accessible showers for those with disabilities or who can’t use a shower over bath safely!”

Husband, “You used that word!”

Me, “But in this case it’s warranted!”

Do you agree?